• The People Who Hurts Us Can’t Always Heal Us

    The People Who Hurts Us Can’t Always Heal Us

    I’ve been spending a lot of time in counseling lately, and I’m not embarrassed about it. In fact, I think the whole world should be in counseling—if you’ve never tried it, consider this your sign! One of the things I’ve been working through is the idea of closure. Ugh. Closure. Just the word makes me Read more

  • When “I Take Full Responsibility” Rings Hollow

    When “I Take Full Responsibility” Rings Hollow

    A couple of weeks ago I wrote about General Eisenhower’s quiet, never-used speech on D-Day—the one he drafted in case the Normandy invasion failed. Accountability in its purest form. Eisenhower didn’t just say the right words—he wrote them down privately and carried them in his wallet, prepared to face the consequences of his decisions. It Read more

  • Juneteenth Matters – Especially if we love Freedom

    Juneteenth Matters – Especially if we love Freedom

    A lot of businesses (including my own) announced on social media that they are closed for the Juneteenth holiday. Many of those posts had quite a bit of “engagement” … people responding with the laughing emoji and comments about how ridiculous it is. Some called it political. And honestly, that makes me sad. I’m a Read more

  • Why I Spent an Hour Writing a Father’s Day Post

    Why I Spent an Hour Writing a Father’s Day Post

    I wrote a Father’s Day post this year that probably took me way too long to finish. It wasn’t long or flashy—I didn’t write a tribute worthy of a Hallmark card or a sweeping memoir about fatherhood. But still, I spent about an hour writing and rewriting it. Because for me, almost everything I post Read more

  • My Favorite Books of 2024

    My Favorite Books of 2024

    Better late than never 🙂 It’s already almost halfway through 2025, and I didn’t even realize I hadn’t posted my favorite books from last year until a friend pointed it out to me. So here I am, catching up—because it’s never too late to celebrate great stories! Every year, my reading goals look a little Read more

  • “The Eyes of the World Are Upon You”

    “The Eyes of the World Are Upon You”

    It’s been a minute! These last few months have been full of transitions and celebrations in the Hofer house. We’ve been busy launching our youngest son from high school into adulthood—an adventure that has taken up most of the time I usually use to reflect and write. There are a lot of ideas bouncing around Read more