I believe that the most powerful thing we can do for ourselves and for others is share our stories…
This is my blog.
It is a space where I share my thoughts and my feelings.
It is about growth, healing, and the experiences that have shaped me. I write for myself and for anyone else that might identify with the journey I’m on. A journey to become better and stronger through the struggles that might otherwise take us out.
Some posts explore themes like healing, betrayal, purpose, and transformation. While these reflections are honest, they are not meant to identify, implicate, or harm any specific individual or institution. Any resemblance to real people or events is entirely unintentional or symbolic.
I share these stories to connect—not to call out. If something resonates, I hope it helps you feel less alone. If something feels familiar, I trust you’ll read with generosity, knowing that we’re all doing our best with what we carry.


I’ve been spending a lot of time in counseling lately, and I’m not embarrassed about it. In fact, I think the whole world should be in counseling—if you’ve never tried it, consider this your sign! One of the things I’ve been working through is the idea of closure. Ugh. Closure. Just the word makes me Read more

A couple of weeks ago I wrote about General Eisenhower’s quiet, never-used speech on D-Day—the one he drafted in case the Normandy invasion failed. Accountability in its purest form. Eisenhower didn’t just say the right words—he wrote them down privately and carried them in his wallet, prepared to face the consequences of his decisions. It Read more

A lot of businesses (including my own) announced on social media that they are closed for the Juneteenth holiday. Many of those posts had quite a bit of “engagement” … people responding with the laughing emoji and comments about how ridiculous it is. Some called it political. And honestly, that makes me sad. I’m a Read more

I wrote a Father’s Day post this year that probably took me way too long to finish. It wasn’t long or flashy—I didn’t write a tribute worthy of a Hallmark card or a sweeping memoir about fatherhood. But still, I spent about an hour writing and rewriting it. Because for me, almost everything I post Read more

Better late than never 🙂 It’s already almost halfway through 2025, and I didn’t even realize I hadn’t posted my favorite books from last year until a friend pointed it out to me. So here I am, catching up—because it’s never too late to celebrate great stories! Every year, my reading goals look a little Read more

It’s been a minute! These last few months have been full of transitions and celebrations in the Hofer house. We’ve been busy launching our youngest son from high school into adulthood—an adventure that has taken up most of the time I usually use to reflect and write. There are a lot of ideas bouncing around Read more